Count Your Blessings

This post has been on my heart for quite a while. Yep another "real life" post. In a nut shell it's about counting your blessings and being happy with the life you have.

This song keeps playing in my head:

When upon life's billow you are tempest-tossed,
When you are discouraged, thinking all is lost,
Count your many blessings, name them one by one,
And it will surprise you what the Lord hath done.

Count your blessings, name them one by one,
Count your blessings, see what God hath done!
Count your blessings, name them one by one,
Count your many blessings, see what God hath done.

Are you ever burdened with a load of care?
Does the cross seem heavy you are called to bear?
Count your many blessings, every doubt will fly,
And you will keep singing as the days go by.

When you look at others with their lands and gold,
Think that Christ has promised you His wealth untold;
Count your many blessings - wealth can never buy
Your reward in heaven, nor your home on high.

So, amid the conflict whether great or small,
Do not be discouraged, God is over all;
Count your many blessings, angels will attend,
Help and comfort give you to your journey's end.

This song essentially sums up what my post is about. So often we focus on all the negative around us and forget to focus on all the blessings that the Lord has bestowed upon us.

Let's start here - you know those "woe is me" people? The ones who are constantly focusing on the negative and just drag you down? I know some and I have found that for me to be happy I need to distance myself from them. We were newly married and my husband and I would meet "someone" for dinner, and every time we left I would feel so down and depressed. I finally told my husband I couldn't go out for dinner with this person anymore - it was starting to affect me too much both physically and emotionally. All we ever heard was negative, and it started to turn my thinking negative. 

Don't get me wrong, we can all have "woe is me" moments, but I think it's so important to not make this your lifestyle. It's not healthy for you or those around you. The Lord has blessed us all so immensely that there is no reason to have a "woe is me" attitude. Sometimes you may need to dig deep past all the negatives to find those blessings, but they are there!

Here are some examples I have thought of:

My dirty messy home. It doesn't matter what I do, how often I clean, it is still messy! But then I think of why it is messy - I have two amazing little children who take up most of my time, and I let them run free through my house because it is their house too. And this means there is food on the floor, and toys scattered everywhere, and laundry piling up, and beds unmade, and the list goes on and on and on. And I could focus on those negatives, or I can focus on the fact that my home is the way it is because of those two amazing little blessings I have. Would I trade a clean house for my two little ones? Never. I will take a messy home everyday. So the next time your home is a mess, think about the positives and the little (or not so little) ones that are happily making that house a mess!

Our home. Do you live in a brand new beautiful home? Wow, you are blessed! You could be living in a renovation disaster like we are. But then I look at my beautiful kitchen and I am so thankful that we were able to renovate it and I can enjoy it. And then I look at the fact that we own our home! That right there is a huge blessing to be thankful for! We could be in an apartment, putting money away every month, saving for a down payment, dreaming of the day of home ownership. Or we could be couch surfing because we can't even afford rent. Be thankful for the roof over your head that the Lord has provided for you - it could be so much worse!

Our children. Today my kids did this, and this and didn't listen to me on this account, and on and on and on. As parents we can totally focus on all the negative things our children do on a daily basis and how difficult our lives are because of them. And if you are a "woe is me" attitude that is what you do. There are days when my kids drive me crazy - I have a 3-year-old with selective hearing and a crazy smart little mommy's boy 1-year-old. Daily life is not easy. And some days are hard. But when it comes down to it, every day is awesome! Why? Because I have two amazing little ones to drive me crazy! There are so many people that would do anything to be in my shoes and have two little ones. There are so many people in today's world who struggle with having children. So who am I to complain about the ones I have? I have been blessed with them and I try to make a conscious effort to enjoy my moments with them.

They are happy and healthy and smart and growing up way too fast! Why would I spend these precious moments focusing on the negatives? Did I mention they are healthy? How many parents out there are dealing with sick little ones? Be happy your kids are healthy - that is a HUGE blessing!

Being a mom. As a mom I am my kids' main caretaker. I am blessed with the ability to stay home with them and work from home. It's very busy, but I wouldn't trade it. So many moms have to work outside the home and put their kids in daycare, and I am blessed to be able to work from home. If you are a true stay at home mom you are even more blessed! I truly believe being a mom is the most rewarding job out there, and no matter how difficult some days may be I wouldn't trade it for anything. 

Most days I feel like a single-mom because my husband works far away and leaves early and comes home late, or he has sports or meetings at night. It's not easy. But I am blessed to have a partner who, when I am curled up in bed sick with the flu, can take care of the kids. I am blessed with a husband who loves his job and works hard to provide for our family. And I focus on the fact that this is just the stage of life that we are in right now, and enjoy all the moments I get to spend with my kids. It's hard for my husband missing so much time with our kids - so I try to focus on the fact that I DO get to spend all that time with them.

Count Your Blessings
I truly believe life is what you make it. If you want a happy life - make an effort. A happy life is not easy, it takes work, a lot of work. It takes a lot of love and forgiveness and counting of your blessings and moving on from the past. Ever since we got married we have been bombarded with different negatives. But we have also been blessed with so many positives - the biggest of which are our children. So my husband and I choose to focus on the positives, and we don't have a lot of room for the "woe is me" attitude. We choose to look forward to the future and try not to live in the past - it's in the past so there is no reason to dwell on it. We choose to count our blessings!

Have you counted your blessings lately? Focusing on the positive things in your life makes life so much more enjoyable! So the next time you are "running ragged" and are exhausted and frustrated (like every night!), think about all the blessings you have and be happy!

1 comment:

  1. so true Felish - thanks for the great reminder!!